Postpartum Depression in Fathers and co-parents
Written with Emma Wilcox, certified and experienced hypnotherapist, from Mindful Mama Bear
While the spotlight often shines on maternal postpartum depression, dads and co-parents can also experience a significant emotional rollercoaster after the arrival of a newborn. Often referred to as paternal postpartum depression (PPD), it's a very real condition affecting a surprising number of fathers.
Understanding Paternal Postpartum Depression
Paternal postpartum depression is a form of depression that affects fathers during pregnancy or in the first year after childbirth, and first time dads and co-parents appear to be more vulnerable to postpartum depression. Just like mothers, dads experience hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation, adjustment to new relation dynamics and the immense pressure of adjusting to a new role. These factors, combined with societal expectations of masculinity and the responsibility of providing for a growing family, can make it difficult for dads to express their struggles and seek help.
The Numbers Tell the Story
Studies estimate that between 4% and 25% of new fathers experience symptoms of postpartum depression. That's a significant portion of dads silently battling feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and anxiety.
Certain factors make paternal postpartum depression more likely. Dads who are under 25 are more likely to experience postnatal depression, as are those with a history of depression and anxiety, those experiencing financial pressures, and those no longer being in a relationship with the child’s mother.
Recognising the Signs: Dad's Depression May Look Different
The peak time for paternal postpartum depression is 3-6 months after the birth of baby. It often goes undiagnosed, because the symptoms look like the everyday stresses of caring for a newborn. While some symptoms of paternal postpartum depression mirror those in mothers (fatigue, changes in appetite, difficulty sleeping), dads may also exhibit:
Irritability and anger: Frustration with the new baby or outbursts directed at partners.
Withdrawal and isolation: Dads may pull away from their families or social circles.
Difficulty bonding with the baby: Feeling disconnected or emotionally unavailable.
Increased substance use: Turning to alcohol or drugs to cope with overwhelming emotions.
Marital conflicts: Dad’s relationship with baby’s mother can be affected.
Changes in work performance: Difficulty concentrating or loss of interest in work.
Taking Action: A Guide for Parents and Dads
If you suspect you or your partner might be experiencing postpartum depression, here's what you can do:
Open Communication: Talk openly and honestly about your feelings. Dads, don't be afraid to express your struggles. Partners, create a safe space for dads to share their anxieties.
Educate Yourself: Learn more about paternal postpartum depression and its symptoms. Both parents can benefit from understanding the condition and recognising the signs.
Seek Professional Help: A therapist specialising in perinatal mental health can provide support and develop coping mechanisms. Don't wait for things to get worse.
Practice Self-Care: Prioritise sleep, healthy eating, and exercise. Dads need time for activities they enjoy to recharge and manage stress.
Build a Support System: Lean on family, friends, or support groups for dads or co-parents experiencing postpartum depression. Sharing your struggles with others can alleviate isolation and offer valuable advice.
Remember: postpartum depression is a treatable condition. By addressing it early and seeking professional help, dads can navigate this challenging time and find joy in fatherhood.
Here are an additional resource for dads or co-parent experiencing PPD:
Fatherhood Institute: https://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org